interesting question came up on Aarkeybabble blog (permalink) : Where are the female keyholder support groups?

I would have a tendency to say "just create a group on FetLife" but then again how would that be controlled as Aarkeybabble states:

The unfortunate side effects of that are about 50% of the "keyholder" forum posts there are from actually keyholdees and not keyholders. Plus, there isn't any security and privacy for the discussion. And that can be important, as many people are shy about their sexuality.

Well turns out that Tom Alen (if you don't know him be sure to check out...) from The Edge of Vanilla provided a really interesting answer...

She Makes the Rules
http://www.she-makes-the-rules.com/

It's run by women, for women, and has a decidedly low-impact approach. No Mistress Cruella types. There are a number of male posters, but the groups seem to be split up, and the mods will toss you out if you're a man who tries to peek into the women's areas.

Never even knew this existed... but then again I'm a guy... but then again should I be worried? :P

UPDATE:

I'm really liking this site, I'd call it one of the deep mental mature categories from all the quick fix crap out there. Very nice and listen to what they say:

In the online world for 'Female-Led-Relationships', strong women are also called
'Female Dominants, FemDom's (FemDomme) and/or Controlling Women'.  We don't particularly like these terms, but they are prevalent in the information available, especially online.  Nor have these terms changed in years.  We believe that these terms can come in handy, but by no
means do they describe all that we are.  We ARE women who happen to be strong or even bossy, when we need and/or want to be.